I don't see it as a "how I live" question. No one likes to be looked upon as being racist, intolerant, etc. You cannot go through this life without interacting with others and it would seem that more and more, you cannot converse about anything without these accusations coming up.
All of this pales in comparison to what I wrote above about the safety of our society as a whole. It's inexusable, IMHO, when people's lives are at stake because of someone's, anyone's political ideology.
I've just never had these things come up in day to day conversation. Or I live in a fog