Having been reprimanded more than once by the EO admin team, I've not once been offered the opportunity to apologize......it's ridiculous to even expect them to do that and it deflects the blame on to them instead of resting it where it belongs, in the offender's lap. We're all adults here and should be expected to "own" our mistakes.....
It doesn't deflect the blame to them at all. RLENT was wrong and he knows it, and he accepts full responsibility for his actions. He's certainly not trying to shift blame to someone else for his own actions. He's simply not that sort.
I don't know that I'd call it ridiculous to expect them to do that, but I do think EO has a tendency to walk softly and carry a big sledgehammer. And yes, RLENT absolutely saw it coming. He didn't at the time, in the heat of the moment, but he certainly did after some reflection. I don't want to get into to much detail of what was said offline, but to paraphrase, it was along the lines of, "I'm going to get banned for this, but hopefully I can squeeze in an apology before it happens." And it wasn't to lessen the length of the ban or un-ring the bell he rang or anything like that. That was the least of his concerns. It was because he felt the need to apologize.
I'm not sure if you're relating here your own experience, or if you think that's what RLENT is doing. If it's the latter, then it's a highly inaccurate assessment. Not even close.
As for the verboten discussing of bans, for the most part I agree, since discussing them won't change a thing. But I do think that the reason someone gets banned (or a post gets deleted or edited) should be made public. I think it should be public for both deterrence and education. As an analogy, back when I took my CDL test I missed two question. The examiner would not tell me which questions I missed. I sure hope they weren't important questions, because to this day I have no idea what they dealt with. In contrast, several years earlier when I moved to a different state and failed to get a new drivers license within the prescribed time limit, I had to retake the written test to get my license. I missed one question, and the examiner told me what I missed and gave me the right answer. To this day I remember that question, and the right answer, and drive according to the correct answer. The same thing applies here on EO, if someone screws up and you publicly tell them precisely what they did wrong, not only are they not as likely to repeat the offense, but others who might do the same thing, inadvertently or otherwise, will know what the deal is before they do it.
