Since this has nothing to do with the OP it can be addressed in another thread.
That's pretty funny, considering in which thread you made the request. I look forward to you addressing it another thread. I do hope we don't have to wait as long as we had to wait to hear back on how invading Afghanistan was done to protect the US Constitution.
The rioting that got out of control didn't change their focus at all.
It sounds like you're confusing abuse with attitudes; attitudes that no longer exist to the extent they used to in Southern Appalachia or other areas of the country for that matter.
Nope, not at all. It's interesting that you think as long as the attitude is that it's not abuse, then it's not abuse.
How do we measure the extent to which men have the attitude that women should "keep their place", and stay barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen?
I don't know, maybe take a poll, see how many men require their women to max out at executive officer and first mate while unambiguously knowing who the captain is?
Is that really abuse - and how does that square with women who prefer to be stay-at-home moms?
Contrary to the belief of a few, abuse comes in many forms and many levels. The notion that men can dictate that a woman know her place can absolutely be abuse. It could be as subtle as a man saying, "You're not wearing that," when she is getting ready to go out on girl's night, and then forces her to change clothes. Or he doesn't let her go out on girl's night at all. Or he strictly limits what she can buy. I know several women who have to deal with these very examples. They are not exactly happy, happy in their lives. Squaring it with those who prefer to be stay at home moms is easy, because they are making that choice, the same way that many Muslim women prefer wearing a hajib or burqa even when men don't require them to do so.
Physical abuse is a manifestation that can be measured, and it's logical to say that areas where this type of abuse are high also harbor high levels of verbal and other kinds of abuse. Preconceived notions that the Southern part of the country has higher levels of "abuse" - whatever that may include - is nothing more than stereotyping and bigotry.
All stereotypes are rooted in the truth, and when one experiences and witnesses things first hand, it's neither stereotyping nor bigotry. Plus, bigotry is the stubborn and complete intolerance of a belief or opinion that differs from their own. That's not what I'm doing at all. If you're going to level serious charges like that, the least you could do is comprehend their meaning. You, however, having a stubborn and complete intolerance of my opinion, and isn't that ironic.
Newsflash: Southern women no longer wear hoop skirts and carry parasols, and their tolerance for abuse is as low as most any other area of the country.
My experiences and observations contradict that statement. I don't see Southern women wearing hoop skits and carrying parasols very often, but then again hoop skirts in their day were the fashion everywhere, both in the north and the South, and parasols were reserved primarily for special occasions, or for being outside on sunny days, and were used as much in the South as they were on the boardwalk in New Jersey. Seems to be a little Southern stereotyping going on here. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
As for Southern women having the same tolerance for abuse as women in other parts of the country, my experiences and observations say otherwise. When I moved back down South it was so much of a difference, and so stark, that I noticed it and commented on it, as much out of shock and awe as it was to better understand it and attempt to change their attitude and perspective on it. Like I said, these were coworkers, friends and in some cases relatives. These are not wild-haired, invented statements, and include people living in several cities and regions throughout the South.
