I would like to comment on family disassociation. At Funerals many with unresolved issues, cry the loudest.
My Dad and I didn't get along after my teen years, it appeared that no matter what I did wasn't good enough. I was lucky being able to make peace before he passed.
Five years ago Dad got Alhimers and had to be committed due to him wanting to sell his idea to the Afgans of becoming the Spa place of the world. Being the only son with seven sisters, he knew there was no way the my sisters would listen to my argument against him being committed. Truthfully the whole family agreed with it, since it is dangerous for a confused old man to go overseas by himself.
Anyway, he refused to see the family and I was the only one who could visit him. Isn't that a switch of fate? Luckily, when his roomate at the hospital died, he thought it was Mom and he wanted to see his family.
Though Alshiemers is an evil illness, in a weird way it had a good outcome, special times with Dad.
My point is,
Is it worth the guilt and regret of alienating a loved one due to the disagreement if they were to die suddenly?