Hawk absolutely nailed it with his first response: I'm going to dress like a skinhead, and walk down Visiger St in Detroit. If I get killed, it isn't my fault. Right?
Women know exactly what they are doing when they get dressed. They know exactly how to advertise, and when they attract what they don't want, they're all like, "You're wrong and I'm not to blame at all." The other problem is not so much prudish attitudes and thinking, but the fact that women want men to think like women, and we don't. And we never will, so don't expect something different.
If you dress slutty (for lack of a better word) then you're advertising (why do you think young women unconsciously dress to show more skin when they are ovulating?), and when you attract someone, they aren't necessarily attracted to you for the purpose of assaulting or raping you, but when you in effect say, "Here I am boys! Come and get me!" and when they do come for you, you in effect go, "ha, ha, ha. Fooled ya!" that will make some men mad and it then becomes an assault or rape. It shouldn't happen, and when it does it doesn't mean it's the woman's fault they got assaulted or raped, but they aren't necessarily free from any and all blame, either.
Most women won't walk alone though a dark parking lot or paring garage at night, or walk very far down a street by themselves at night, any more than they'll dress like a
and go into a pool hall alone at 11PM on a Friday night because they have a hankerin' to play a game of pool... because they know they are putting themselves in a position for problems and they know what to expect. If a woman does that and is attacked, it's absolutely the fault of the attacker, but many other women will absolutely comment that she shouldn't have put herself in that position to begin with. It's no different when you advertise by how you dress. You're not to blame, but you're not exactly free of all blame, either, no matter how badly you don't want to take responsibility for your actions.
This is, of course, not to justify in any way a woman being assaulted on any level, but at the same time it's just insane to say, "I'm gonna dress slutty to advertise, knowing full well that I'm advertising and may very well attract unwanted attention from the wrong type of man, but I refuse to be responsible for my actions." To do otherwise smacks of bait.
Women know exactly what they are doing when they get dressed. They know exactly how to advertise, and when they attract what they don't want, they're all like, "You're wrong and I'm not to blame at all." The other problem is not so much prudish attitudes and thinking, but the fact that women want men to think like women, and we don't. And we never will, so don't expect something different.
If you dress slutty (for lack of a better word) then you're advertising (why do you think young women unconsciously dress to show more skin when they are ovulating?), and when you attract someone, they aren't necessarily attracted to you for the purpose of assaulting or raping you, but when you in effect say, "Here I am boys! Come and get me!" and when they do come for you, you in effect go, "ha, ha, ha. Fooled ya!" that will make some men mad and it then becomes an assault or rape. It shouldn't happen, and when it does it doesn't mean it's the woman's fault they got assaulted or raped, but they aren't necessarily free from any and all blame, either.
Most women won't walk alone though a dark parking lot or paring garage at night, or walk very far down a street by themselves at night, any more than they'll dress like a
and go into a pool hall alone at 11PM on a Friday night because they have a hankerin' to play a game of pool... because they know they are putting themselves in a position for problems and they know what to expect. If a woman does that and is attacked, it's absolutely the fault of the attacker, but many other women will absolutely comment that she shouldn't have put herself in that position to begin with. It's no different when you advertise by how you dress. You're not to blame, but you're not exactly free of all blame, either, no matter how badly you don't want to take responsibility for your actions. This is, of course, not to justify in any way a woman being assaulted on any level, but at the same time it's just insane to say, "I'm gonna dress slutty to advertise, knowing full well that I'm advertising and may very well attract unwanted attention from the wrong type of man, but I refuse to be responsible for my actions." To do otherwise smacks of bait.
