Lanier: where you see people bashing the poster, I see people making every effort to be HELPFUL instead. Answering the specific question "how long do you wait before deadheading home?" would be of no help, because if you've been out here for more than a few months, you know there isn't one answer that fits - it depends on a lot of variables.
IMO, there simply wasn't enough information provided to be much help, and so we asked for more info. We also inferred, correctly, as it turns out, that the poster is a newbie, and one who seems to believe that expediting should offer "round trips". I think we've done a pretty fair job of letting him know that we'd like to help, and if we've misunderstood what looks like 'red flag' comments, ie: "I hate to wait" "wife likes to go shopping" "motel & restaurant expenses for two", well, then let Kellemus say so - we're listening, and I'd like to hear more. From him. You don't need our help, I gather - but thanks for letting us know how you feel, anyway.
Kellemus, do you feel 'beat up on'? Or do you feel we mean to help?