Hire the KID NOW!

EnglishLady · Oct 16, 2011

AMonger said:
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..... But the British are accustomed to sending their children off for someone else to raise, though I hear boarding schools are on the decline over there.

Where on earth do you hear such codswallop

If both parents have to work to make ends meet, then yes they may go to a grandparent or other relative or a playschool.

Boarding Schools are for the rich not for the ordinary working folk.

Who on earth is Dr Laura

Seems to me she needs to get in touch with the real world

cheri1122 · Oct 16, 2011

EnglishLady said:
Where on earth do you hear such codswallop

Google Dr Laura [I had to, I know she had a very popular radio show, but I'd never heard it] and that might provide the answer.
Excellent word, BTW!

If both parents have to work to make ends meet, then yes they may go to a grandparent or other relative or a playschool.

Boarding Schools are for the rich not for the ordinary working folk.

Who on earth is Dr Laura
Seems to me she needs to get in touch with the real world

layoutshooter · Oct 16, 2011

It seems to me that MANY in here have not spent a lot of time around REAL boys, eh?

Socialization? We did not have that. We played outside, day in and day out. NO structured "play". We had imagination. We did not have "self-esteem", we had confidence. We got that by playing HARD! Competing, winning AND losing. We could play and learn our limits BECAUSE, we had parent AT HOME, watching us. It was SAFE! NO day care can LOVE a kid. NO day care can replace a MOM or DAD.

How can someone "raise" a child when there are ONLY 24 hours in a day and they work full time? The math don't work out.

cheri1122 · Oct 16, 2011

layoutshooter said:
It seems to me that MANY in here have not spent a lot of time around REAL boys, eh?

As english Lady so elegantly put it: codswallop! We've all spent time around real boys - and btw: what other klind is there?

Socialization? We did not have that. We played outside, day in and day out. NO structured "play". We had imagination. We did not have "self-esteem", we had confidence. We got that by playing HARD! Competing, winning AND losing. We could play and learn our limits BECAUSE, we had parent AT HOME, watching us. It was SAFE! NO day care can LOVE a kid. NO day care can replace a MOM or DAD.

day care [in whatever form] isn't meant to love the kids - it's meant to keep them safe from harm, occupied with activities inside and out, help them learn to share, win, and lose, until Mom or Dad [or both] can resume their part. Without it, those kids may have to do without much that their Mom & Dad want them to have.

How can someone "raise" a child when there are ONLY 24 hours in a day and they work full time? The math don't work out.

How? Probably almost as many ways as there are folks doing it, math or no math. I've worked full time as a single parent, and my kids are happy and entirely self sufficient adults now, and we have excellent relationships, too. It can be done, and millions of parents are doing it every day. Because we have no choice - to us, welfare is not acceptable if we can work, and that's what we do. AND we raise our own kids while we're doing it - they'll tell you that, if you ask.

layoutshooter · Oct 16, 2011

cheri1122 said:
How? Probably almost as many ways as there are folks doing it, math or no math. I've worked full time as a single parent, and my kids are happy and entirely self sufficient adults now, and we have excellent relationships, too. It can be done, and millions of parents are doing it every day. Because we have no choice - to us, welfare is not acceptable if we can work, and that's what we do. AND we raise our own kids while we're doing it - they'll tell you that, if you ask.

NO point in this. I BELIEVE one thing, you believe another. There is ALWAYS a choice. I won't go beyond that, I don't want banned. NO family with both parents working full time jobs are EVER raising their kids and making a marriage grow and succeed. There are just NOT enough hours in the day.

It may be best we let this die.

I still would LOVE to raise this kid. What GUTS!!!

cheri1122 · Oct 17, 2011

layoutshooter said:
NO point in this. I BELIEVE one thing, you believe another.

I believe that parents who love their kids and try to raise them to be healthy, self sufficient, and happy with themselves and others can do it in different ways. Not every family resembles Ozzie & Harriet - and BTW: there was just as much ugliness [domestic violence, incest, abuse] hiding behind the facade of a 'perfect' nuclear family as there is today.
What I don't believe is that anyone should say "My way is the only right way"

There is ALWAYS a choice. I won't go beyond that, I don't want banned. NO family with both parents working full time jobs are EVER raising their kids and making a marriage grow and succeed. There are just NOT enough hours in the day.

Quality, not quantity, is what counts.

It may be best we let this die.

I still would LOVE to raise this kid. What GUTS!!!

'Guts' is when one knows the risks and dangers, and proceeds in spite of them. That child had no idea what COULD have happened - his guts could easily have been spilled all over the road.