Phil,
I agree with you in some respects but I find the three points that you listed are not the entire picture.
Many people are successes in their own right, just look around and you will see that many who never even approached college, let alone attended any have been successful. I have a few friends who never even finished high school and they seem to be doing very well.
I don’t buy into the college will provide you an insight to life, they don’t get that the degree is not the thing that offsets the person in the real world, it is attitude and perseverance that matter. You can know your limitations and you can have a solid realistic view of a profession or world and even have goals but they will not provide you a way of generating a living unless there is an attitude and the perseverance to succeed, to follow through and win.
At this point I depart from the pro-college and non-college people, because I have not seen at my schools where there is they teach attitude, I don’t see it in the work place when the interns came in for interviews who don’t have any good attitudes and I surely don’t see it with the ‘it is tough out there, we must find another way’ attitude with kids and young adults today.
T-Hawk has on his tag line a quote from Henry Ford, a person of immense confusion and ignorance. See old man ford was not a genius at anything but was willing to compromise with people and get people to do the work that he needed to reach a level of what he defined as success. He like others (Bill Gates comes to mind) had those two qualities I speak of, attitude and perseverance, and if you really read about him (not the skewed Wikipedia bio) and what the company was like to work in, everything you talk about with those three points is out the window. Most of his decisions were not based on solid science or even educated guesses but what would make the most money for him his way, once he would decide something and that was it. Until 1945 the company was a mess, but it was still making money and the net worth was somewhere around $800M in real money – not bad for an uneducated farmer. The people who flourished there were not the educated college graduates but the street smart people who had attitude and perseverance, Harry Bennet comes to mind and so does Joe Tocco.
A question that was thrown out on another forum was this – could Henry Ford make it in today’s world? I would say YES he would because even though he could not compete with the guy who has that MBA, he could see his vision and chase it because of his attitude and perseverance.
I honestly think that the critical thinking skills that they teach actually hurt the kids today by not allow them to take advantage of things when opportunity arises. What I mean is that over analyzing things can sometimes be a very bad thing and ignoring your gut feelings and somehow learning how to take risks, even though mildly calculated risks, is the right thing to do. Many tend to over think the situation and take time evaluating solutions while others come in and solve the problem and move on.
Seen it here, seen it at the Pharma company a lot of times.
Now I can point to many examples but here is something to consider. Teach your kids how to deal with problems they face as kids first. Don’t PC a solution for them or even allow the school to do something like that. If they fail, tell them they failed but provide the support for them to keep trying. If they can’t make the team, show them that there are other things that they can do. Remember that kids don’t learn how to have attitude and perseverance in college but at a young age.
Attitude - an arrogant or assertive manner or stance assumed as a challenge or for effect
Perseverance - steady and continued action or belief, usually over a long period and especially despite difficulties or setbacks