The essence of your (apparent) premise can be simply boiled to the following, stated in the first person:
"Because one or more other parties does something that is unethical, immoral, and wrong, it therefore justifies and makes it ok that I commit similar wrongdoings ...."
A couple of interjections here, if I may...
The above does two things. One, it removes the context of diplomacy (which cannot be ignored or dismissed) and moves it into the realm of broad philosophical hypotheticals, and two, it assumes that what the other one or more parties is doing is in fact unethical, immoral and wrong (within the scope of diplomacy). But if all parties within the scope of diplomacy are engaging in the same things,
and they all know it, and that's how the game is played, then it's not really unethical, or immoral, or wrong. Most treaties are smoke and mirrors, signed with winks all around, just like Cheri posited above. Diplomacy isn't quick and easy, black and white, simplistic and uncomplicated, like we want to view it, or view it's end outcomes. It's the reverse.
When diplomats negotiate treaties, with rare exceptions, everyone involved in the treaty knows under which conditions one or more of the parties will not live up to the agreement. For example, despite the opinionated article in the OP that says the United States is failing to comply with its treaty obligations, that's not really accurate, since the very treaty he is talking about allows the US, and every other country which signed it, to do precisely what the US is doing. The US told everyone involved that they might (or absolutely) would do many of the very things that people are all bent out of shape about, and the treaty was signed by all.
Does that make the US unethical, immoral and wrong, because all the other countries agreed to the same conditions? In the abstract, perhaps, but not in the world of diplomacy. Many treaties contain articles that no one expects to be complied with, but they are in the treaty anyway as a hope and a wish for some ideal solution to an otherwise irreconcilable difference. In a perfect world, where diplomacy is not needed, we could look another country in the eye and tell them that from now on we will say what we mean and mean what we say, and all the other countries would do the same. But we don't like in that perfect world, and if we were to suddenly take the Utopian moral high road, and everyone else didn't do the same, we'd be weak and naive, nothing more than international roadkill and a chapter in the history books of yet another great civilization that got conquered with relative ease because we self-destructed.
The CIA doesn't have Black Ops torture holes, I mean detention facilities, in these countries without the host country's knowledge, and these countries aren't naive enough to think we're serving milk and cookies to terrorists there. In most (if not all) cases, the host governments have people working right along side of the CIA inside these facilities. So don't think we're the only ones who are dirty here. We're not.
Do you seriously believe that not abiding by agreements to which we have given our word, collectively as a nation, raises our standing with the community of those who we claim as our friends ?
Considering our word, nor the word of any other nation who are parties to a treaty, is not considered to be absolute and unconditional, and all parties to the treaty know the conditions for which the treaty will not be complied with, then the answer would be that it doesn't make any difference to our standing within the community. Especially in this case where the treaty itself allows for the very actions the US took, or rather refused to take, in cooperating with the investigation. So we're not even breaking the treaty, and we're abiding by our word.
If it doesn't raise our standing, if rather, it makes us despised and hated, in what way can that be good for us as a nation ?
Does it make us despised and hated? Perhaps it does by a few Bloggers and Polish radio, but it certainly doesn't seem to be the case for the leaders and diplomats of these countries.
If a friend of yours gave you his word, in respect to how the two of you would conduct say a business relationship, and then later came back and said: "Nope, I'm not going to live up to our agreement - despite the fact that I gave you my solemn word ...." .... how would you feel about it ?
Straw man. That assumes the US gave their solemn word, and said so, unconditionally, and the other signatories to the treaty took that word to be an austere declaration, as one would for a contractual agreement. That assumes a lot. Treaties are diplomatic tools, not business contracts.
I am somewhat perplexed as to how individuals who believe that
unethical and
immoral conduct on part of an individual is a bad thing ....
but when essentially the same conduct is committed by their government, it somehow suddenly becomes "ok" ....
it's not essentially the same thing, though. It may be similar on the surface, and they sometimes share many characteristics, but individual conduct with respect to a contract or some other personal agreement is a very different thing from the nature of a diplomatic treaty.
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...... even when it's the US doing it on their own sovereign soil ?
Reverse the situation:
As a sovereign nation, do you feel that the US should have no say about what is legal for another nation to do on our soil ?
What if Russia or China kidnapped people here in the US that they felt were a danger to their security ?
Would that be ok ?
..... what is good for the goose, is also good for the gander .....
In the abstract, that's an insanely good argument, but in practice it doesn't really apply. China, Russia nor anyone else has an historical nor current
condoned presence to operate overtly and covertly within our borders, but we have exactly that in many countries around the world, condoned either privately or publicly, or at least with the knowledge of, by of the nations we operate in (not saying that it's a good thing we do, just saying that we do). China and Russia may not be the best examples, because we don't have any kind of condoned presence in those countries, and if we did something over there it would create quite the international incident, same as if any other country tried something like that here. But for places like Europe, they know we're there, many condone it, others begrudgingly put up with it. The reverse is not true, so the situation really can't be reversed in reality as easily as it can on paper.
Be all that as it may, I agree with you that it shouldn't just give us the right to do as we wish, which at times certainly seems to be on the verge of being out of control, like the mistaken identity kidnapping and torture of a German citizen, and then when they realize they got the wrong guy, they keep him anyway.
That's something that justifies honest to goodness outrage (unlike the outrage over the US breaking a treaty that they're not really even breaking). Someone or several someones need to he held accountable for the greengrocer's kidnapping and torture, as well as several other incidents that, as you say, "we know about", and likely others that we don't know about.
The best way to handle that, in many people's mind, would be to arrest, try and convict those responsible (and there are likely foreign citizens who are also involved, since we really don't operate on foreign soil with complete autonomy). But would that necessarily be the best thing to do in the bigger picture, for all countries involved? I dunno, but probably not. It will probably be handled for the most part in diplomatic channels, and anything that happens publicly will happen because diplomacy allows or requires it.
As a side note, I'm not saying that anyone in this thread is right or wrong (other than a couple of Cheri's incorrect inferences and conclusion that she's absolutely dead wrong about
), I'm just offering up another way to view things, some possibilities, some of which isn't necessarily my opinion, some of which is.