Bob's Story...
It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it
becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of
housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this,
try not to yell at them. Some are oversensitive, and there's
nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.
My name is Bob. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my
wife, Debbie. When I took "early retirement" last year, it became
necessary for Debbie to get a full-time job along with her part-
time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that
we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was
beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf course
about the same time she gets home from work.
Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has
to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't
yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me
when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the
Men's Grill at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready
for some home cooked grub when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating.
But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for
several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically
reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean
themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does
seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example,
she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the
monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for
better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell
her to stretch it out ove r two or even three days. That way
she won't have to rush so much.
I also remind her that missing lunch
completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I
mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest
periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished
mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to
fix
herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit
for a while.
And, as long as she is making one for herself, she
may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support
Debbie. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is
easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible!
Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they
get older. However, guys, even if you just use a litt le more tact and
less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will
consider that writing it was well worthwhile.
After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.....
Signed, Bob
*
EDITOR'S NOTE: Bob died suddenly on May 27th. The police report
says that he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big
Bertha Driver II golf club rammed up his butt, with only 2 inches of
grip showing. His wife Debbie was arrested and charged with murder;
However, the all-woman jury found her Not Guilty, accepting her
defense that he accidentally sat down on it...
It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it
becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of
housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this,
try not to yell at them. Some are oversensitive, and there's
nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.
My name is Bob. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my
wife, Debbie. When I took "early retirement" last year, it became
necessary for Debbie to get a full-time job along with her part-
time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that
we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was
beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf course
about the same time she gets home from work.
Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has
to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't
yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me
when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the
Men's Grill at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready
for some home cooked grub when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating.
But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for
several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically
reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean
themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does
seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example,
she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the
monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for
better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell
her to stretch it out ove r two or even three days. That way
she won't have to rush so much.
I also remind her that missing lunch
completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I
mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest
periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished
mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to
fix
herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit
for a while.
And, as long as she is making one for herself, she
may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support
Debbie. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is
easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible!
Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they
get older. However, guys, even if you just use a litt le more tact and
less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will
consider that writing it was well worthwhile.
After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.....
Signed, Bob
*
EDITOR'S NOTE: Bob died suddenly on May 27th. The police report
says that he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big
Bertha Driver II golf club rammed up his butt, with only 2 inches of
grip showing. His wife Debbie was arrested and charged with murder;
However, the all-woman jury found her Not Guilty, accepting her
defense that he accidentally sat down on it...